To the mom who is just waking up, hours after your husband went to work.
To the mom who is just making sure the baby has a clean diaper.
To the mom who is just finally getting caught up on laundry, after so many weeks.
To the mom who is just finally getting a few things organized in the house.
To the mom who is just trying to keep the kids alive.
To the mom who is just trying to make sure the kids have a good day.
To the mom who is just making dinner.
To the mom who is just finally eating dinner after making sure the kids have their food and drink at the table.
To the mom who is just cleaning up after dinner.
To the mom who is trying to be better, and getting on the floor, or going outside, and just playing with the kids.
To the mom who is just finally sitting down and relaxing after the kids are in bed.
To the mom who is just making sure the coffee pot is ready to brew coffee before your husband goes to work the next morning.
To the mom who is trying to be a good wife, even though she is just so tired, and exhausted.
To the mom who is just finally going to bed.
To the mom who feels like all she does is just… be a mom.
To the mom who feels like she is so tired…. but all she does is just take care of kids all day. She doesn’t go to work. She stays home.
To that mom. To you. Take the JUST out of it. You aren’t JUST staying home with your kids. You are STAYING HOME WITH YOUR KIDS. You are sacrificing so much, so that they can have their mom home with them, raising them. You could have more money, more materialistic things, more ‘comfort’ when it comes to finances, but instead, your kids have a mom who is home.
Stop beating yourself up because you have a friend who goes to work AND does the mom gig. Trust me, they feel the mom guilt too. I was that mom. And now I am this mom. And I have to remind myself over and over again… I am not JUST a stay at home mom. I am a stay at home mom, that is exhausted, that is drained, that has a heart over flowing with love and purpose and passion for her family. I am a stay at home mom, that though I fail over and over again, I try to get my house where I want it to be. I try to make sure my family has clean clothes to wear. I try to make sure we have food to eat every day.
It is OK to be tired. It is OK to feel exhausted. Stop comparing your job to your husband’s job. Stop telling yourself you have no reason to feel tired. It is not a comparison. Your husband worked a full day, and he too is tired. Guess what? You also worked a full day, and you are tired too.
It can be hard because, as a mom, your job never ends. I bet dads feel that way as well. They get home from work, and they have a wife and kids to tend to. They have a wife who may just be exhausted. They have kids that have missed them so much all day, and just want dad to play with them. And just like us moms who are waiting for our minute to relax, so are they.
We need to be a team with our spouse. It isn’t a competition for who is working the hardest, and who is more tired. It is a team effort. If it weren’t for our husbands job, we wouldn’t be staying home. If it weren’t for us being willing to stay home with our kids, we would be paying for child care.
It is a team effort. He is tired. You are tired. We are all tired. But it is a team effort. Be tired together. Help each other. Be a team. That is what everyone in the family needs.
Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him-a threefold cord is not quickly broken.